Be A Rubber Band

Inside each of us is something called “potential,” our job in life is to develop it.  You might say our potential is a great gift.  If we develop our potential and use it for good, we have done well.  However, if we never develop our potential or squander it, we have done a great disservice not only to ourselves but …

Where Is Your Ladder?

By Janice Bastani Did you know that in almost every survey conducted, “Honesty” was the highest word selected by those surveyed as the #1 characteristic of a leader?  We all have known of, or read a story about an enterprising individual who quits their job and opens a business, only to see it go under.  The same person will try …

Good Pain & Bad Pain

When you think about “pain”, what do you remember?  Maybe it was a paper cut, or a scraped knee, perhaps the pain after surgery.  What we know about pain is, it prompts us to face who we are and where we are. What we do in these times of pain, defines who we are. Below are some facts about “Bad …

The Price for Freedom

  Today is the 4th of July, the birthday of our nation, The United States of America.  Whether you were born here or immigrated to the US, it is important to remember what our country is built upon, the values, the standards, the foundational ideas that have made this nation a great place to live.  If you immigrated here, what …

Design Your Life

Here is a fact:  we either design our lives, or someone else will.  Which of the two choices would you choose?  No matter where you are in life, you can choose to design your life differently if you really want to.  In order to look at this more deeply, let’s take a look at your calendar over the past few …

Environment

Anytime you have “grown” in your life, most likely you changed your environment in some way.  Think about the environment you are in today, are you growing to your full potential or are you at a plateau?  You never want to be at the head of the class 100% of the time.  Like anything, once we reach the peak and …

Consistency

  If you are a fan of college football, you will know this coaches name; Jim Tressel, the head football coach at The Ohio State.  Coach Tressel says:  “The hallmark of excellence, the test of greatness is consistency.” Think about a great musician; the musician didn’t get to plan in an orchestra by practicing once a week. A great musician …

Reflection

When we talk about reflection we think of a mirror reflecting back our own image, or perhaps a shiny black car which reflects everything it passes. This month we are using the term in a different manner.  We are talking about stopping, pausing for a period of time to reflect on the past, the present and the future.   Pausing …

Mirroring

This month let’s talk about “Mirroring” and what it looks like in our lives.  What is “Mirroring” you may wonder?  This term and behavior can be very beneficial to your life or it can destroy a relationship.  Let me give you an example of each so you will understand. “Positive Mirroring” is the behavior of being present through listening, direct …

Awareness

“Leaders have a high level of emotional intelligence,” according to Daniel Goleman. Self-examination is the fastest way to “self-awareness.”   “Self-awareness” requires a few things:  sincerity, genuineness, honesty and authenticity.  On any given day, most of us are wary of receiving feedback from others much less ourselves.  Leading yourself is the hardest job any of us will ever do. John Maxwell …

What’s Your Growth Plan?

When a person finishes their formal education, that closes a book on growing in knowledge, both academic and socially; or so they think.  Even if someone drops out of school be it high school or college, the thought is:  “I am street smart and can take care of myself,” or “This is not relevant to me and I am out …

Growth Through Our Choices

  So many choices, how does anyone know which one will lead to the outcome, goal, or destination they desire?  Do you realize that you are where you are today, because of every choice you have ever made in your life?  The past is the past and it ended last night, so let’s not blame everyone in our past.  If …

Evaluating 2016 & Looking Ahead to 2017

  Did you turn your calendar and notice, there are only a few days left in 2016?   Hard to believe how fast a year can go by when you are very busy with business and daily living.  I am wondering how “Intentional” you were in 2016 in your own life? This year we discussed good intentions, starting small to create …

Tell Someone Your Story This Month!

When we go to the movies or select one on our home theater, what genre do you choose? Many love a movie with action and adventure, still others choose romance, then there are the space movies about time travel and the future, but most of us love a movie which is a “True Story”.  A true story of how someone …

Seizing Opportunities

  How many of us have lived with the regret of not jumping onto an opportunity?  We are flooded with the feeling of frustration at not seizing a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, and we tend to beat ourselves up over not taking action.  How many times in history have we seen in our own lifetime, how average everyday people seize an opportunity …

Like Minded People Create Magic

  What does it mean to live in a time of anticipation?  I am sure you have seen a “MAGIC” show either in person or on television and there is a moment when you are leaning forward in your seat in anticipation of catching the  magician in the act of creating that magic trick, haven’t you?  I know I sure …

Connecting with Like Minded People who Make a Difference

  Did you know that it is impossible to achieve significance alone?  The “Law of Significance” states that one person is too small a number to achieve any type of greatness.   For those who do try to make a difference and achieve significance on their own, are fooling themselves.  Why?  A big ego, their own level of insecurity, their …

Living and Working in Your Sweet Spot

What is a “Sweet Spot”?  A sweet spot is that unique very special place from which when you operate there, you are unstoppable.  You thrive here, you succeed.  You work hard and even though you are tired, it is that good kind of tired when you know you have performed and added value at your highest level.  How often can …

Put Others First – “Doing Something To Make A Difference”

We all know these two types of people; those who are “takers” and those who are “givers”, which one are you?  Perhaps you enjoy letting others do things for you or maybe you believe you are entitled to certain things, but does this behavior lift up, encourage, or move another forward?  Maybe you are in the other camp, one of …

Finding Your Way & Finding Your Why

“Start with Why” by Simon Sinek, is now a business classic.  Sinek wrote this book back in 2011 and he has built an entire business around people and companies finding their “WHY”.   You can watch his powerful video on TED.com, to understand why, WHY is the most important thing in a leader’s life. When you or I look for that …

Starting Small Can Create Something B-I-G!

  Have you ever thought “I’d like to leave my mark on the world, but I have no idea where to do that, or how to begin?”  This is a noble thought, but until we put actions to our thoughts they mean nothing.  Ordinary people when moved to action are the ones who create lasting change for our world and …

Good Intentions Are Not Enough

    All of us at some time in our lives will be moved by an event, a tragedy, suffering and feel moved to do something. Did you know that when you help another person in need without any expectation of praise, it actually makes you a better person? But, if you do not act on the “intention” of wanting …

Your Life Can Be a Great Story

  I would like to start out this month by asking you to participate in a “Visioning” exercise.  A visioning exercise is simply where you and I decide to close our eyes and envision something.  Are you willing?  Okay, let’s say you are a great author and you have been paid a one million dollar advance to write “Your Story”, …

Staying at the top of your Game!

  By Janice Bastani a Ruby Hill Resident 2015 is just about in the history book. How would you rate your year? In this final issue of Ruby Hill Living for 2015, I would like you to take some time and reflect back over your entire year. Thoughtfully evaluate all the entries in your calendar. I learned this technique from …