Have noticed lately how many people seem to be “unhinged” about everything? What’s up with that? Do any of these images seem like it could be a photo of you? What is it that has people so unedge lately? Has life really changed all that much?
If those who seem to be unhinged took a moment to look back at history, they would quickly notice these actions, decisions, and other things have been going on since the beginning of time. We all know the story of Adam and Eve in the garden – right? Who became unhinged there and who began to blame the other, even the snake got pulled into the blame game there. So, what has changed?
“Reacting” is great! But overreacting is not so great. If you feel you have been triggered by anything lately, I implore you to do the following:
- Ask yourself what is upsetting you? – be specific.
- Think about what your “purpose” is in your reaction.
- Will your reaction improve or further keep you triggered and spun up?
- What is your base go to when you get triggered?
- Are being triggered by “fear?”
- Are you being triggered by “anxiety?”
- Perhaps it is inequality?
- What are you trying to accomplish with your “REACTION?”
- Who will be hurt by your overreaction in your family?
- Is your job going to be at stake?
So many question that we “BLOW BY” when we get triggered. I get triggered too sometimes when I see and hear things that are not true or seem to be unjust to me from my perspective. That’s it isn’t it – our perspective.
In our society today we have been taught to be “self-reliant” and “strong.” We must be image conscious and read for anything, but are we? Is there perhaps another solution to feeling “triggered into overreaction?”
I believe there is another way. Don’t close this screen and ears, hear me out first! What if our “Life Toolbox” had some great tools we could use FIRST before we fly off the handle? That just may save our emotions, our family, our jobs, and our own inner turmoil. Ready?
Here we go:
- Take each occurrence as it happens. In other words, do not let things build up until you explode.
- Have a plan and take one step at a time vs exploding and acting out.
- Think through what you believe must be acted upon. This will look very different when you use your head and not let your emotions run wild.
- Is there perhaps a way to be more effective than rushing out the door and raising your fist or a sign?
These are just ideas of course but they do have merit.
I was reading a book on Amish Farming [I know strange – we are trying to amend our soil in our home garden!] and I came across this sentence and I though this is so simplistic and yet we in 2026 try to make everything complicated. Here it is:
“May you be guided toward peace, independence and quite confidence that comes from knowing you can provide, protect and thrive – whatever the world bring.”
What great food for thought!
Take a moment and write down what things you might work on for you and your famil6y, your business and your neighbors to achieve this goal. You do not have to be a superman, or be the hero in every instance.
Then create an intentional step by step action plan.
Put the steps on your calendar and then simply “work your plan.”
Watch what happens.
You will be on the road to peace, be able to provide, protect and thrive.
If you need help in defusing your overreaction, send me an email
I’d be glad to help unplug and refuse your overreaction.
janice@janicebastanicoaching.com
8914 Collina Ct.
Granite Bay, CA 95746
908-229-3797
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