When I am in conversation with others around this topic of “Trust” and how it impacts “decisions” that must be made, I see sparks fly, hair stand on end, jaws tighten and fists clench. Who do you trust?
Trust is a huge thing in any relationship whether it is in the professional arena or in the private areas of our lives. Who do you trust?
This scenario has played out time and again in the work place and at the kitchen table: one of the two or more people in the conversation “thinks” they know more about a topic or subject and they truly believe that THEY should be making the decision around what is on the table. At the same time, there are those who “believe” that because of their experience and or position that they are the logical ones who should make the decision. What about the age old tug of war between a husband and wife over the finances? Who will win that debate?
What does “trust” mean anyway? Trust according to the online dictionary means: “…..
1 a : assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something
b : one in which confidence is placed
b : reliance on future payment for property (as merchandise) delivered : credit <bought furniture on trust>
3 a : a property interest held by one person for the benefit of another
b : a combination of firms or corporations formed by a legal agreement; especially : one that reduces or threatens to reduce competition
5 a (1) : a charge or duty imposed in faith or confidence or as a condition of some relationship
(2) : something committed or entrusted to one to be used or cared for in the interest of another
b : responsible charge or office c : care, custody <the child committed to her trust>
So what did you learn here?
Trust has a lot to do with character, confidence, hope, future follow through, competition, commitment and custody of things. Did you know that all of those words have to do with your very foundational core of who you are?
I teach on this day in and day out with my clients. We go to the core of who they are and we look at what they believe about “Trust”, where they learned how or how not to trust, who modeled “trust in their lives or who might have been a key “influence” in their lives around this basic character issue of trust.
Who do you “trust”?
Who makes the decisions in your professional life?
Who makes the decisions in your private life?