Every year in December, I post about an “End of the Year Assessment” for each of you who dare to evaluate your year. This year is no exception, and I want to use some statistics from a friend of mine, John Maxwell. 20% of those who make New Year’s Resolutions or “goals” for the new year fail. So why make them? You’ve heard the saying: “Hope springs eternal.” Well, not if you do not have substantial change in your behavior, your attitude, your mindset, and how you conduct your life, and you change those habits that get you derailed.
When you examine what is at the root of your pontification of your resolutions, you might find something you’d rather not look upon. We blame everyone, every circumstance, and anything that we can except ourselves.
Did you ever notice if you look at or click out of curiosity at something on Facebook or Instagram or any other platform, suddenly, that is all you see, luring you into a very long video to get you to click and buy something? Isn’t that maddening? What is at the real root of that curiosity? You are trying to purchase some easy, immediate change in your life.
Long ago, I learned this from my mentor, John Maxwell, these three lines:
They hurt enough that they have to
They learn enough that they want to
They receive enough that they are able to
This sounds simple, but it is at the root of what ails us.
When you hurt and keep repeating the same behavior – you basically do not change.
When you become educated enough and WANT to change and move beyond that which exists you, you do that.
When you receive enough positivity to make that change, you begin to move forward and you understand what real progress and a feeling of enormous gratitude is present in your life.
For over a decade now, I have challenged my clients with the following set of questions:
- What do you believe?
- What do you believe about ______________________?
- Where did your belief come from?
- How do you know your belief about ____________________ is true?
- If you didn’t have the belief that____________________, and could change it, what would you change your belief to?
- How would this new belief serve your clients, patients, customers, family, friends, community, faith, etc.?
- You can change your beliefs.
- What would it take to change your belief?
- Who would benefit?
- Who would abandon you?
- Who is more important to supporting you in your new belief?
First, list what you are not pleased with within 2023.
Second, go through the list with this set of eleven questions.
Third, what can you and what do you want to alter in this new year – 2024, realistically?
Then, decide what the priority is and act on that.
If you want help with this, I would be happy to help you as a mentor or coach you through the year. Email me at janice@janicebastanicoachiang.com, and in the subject, write:
Ready for change in 2024.
