Pride and Life

I don’t believe there is any one of us reading this that doesn’t want to master of his or her own fate.  We want to be in control of our lives and what  happens in them.  We want to be  the one who makes all the decisions.  Our hands are on the steering wheel.  We want to call all the shots and be completely in charge.  We want what we want, when we want it.  I can hear you now:  “…you bet I do!”

If I were to show you a photo of a two year old in the midst of a temper tantrum screaming, “NO, NO….I want it now,   it’s mine,  I do it!…” you’d roll your eyes and think, yep, that’s the way a two year old acts.

If I showed you a video clip of a rebellious teenager screaming at his parents these same phrases and then spewing several curse words their direction and slamming the door, what would you say?

Let’s look a photo of you taken just yesterday, while you were in the midst of your own meltdown thinking these same phrases; are you the same or are you different?

When we say, act and/or think any of these things – what are we really saying about ourselves and what are we modeling to those around us in the workplace and at home?  It isn’t a pretty sight is it.  We appear to be conceited, lying to ourselves and others, we are incongruent inside and outside, we are worshiping ourselves and we appear prideful and arrogant.

This has become our “Way of Life”.  Our default behavior if you will.  It is distasteful isn’t it?

What would your “Way of Life” look like if you could repaint it, reprogram it if you will?  Think about what you would want it to be like in every area of your life.  Make sure to check your heart and attitude and mindset in each area.  When you begin to write this “Way of Life” down what flows out and resonates easily?  That’s what congruency feels like.  That is one way you can tell if you are on the right track.

What happens to you when words, circumstances and experiences overwhelm you and confuse you?  In my coaching business, when this happens to my clients they become confused, they “re-act”, and sometimes they become paralyzed and cannot act or think much less reason.  We must be in a place mentally, physically, and emotionally where we can process these circumstances, words and/or experiences.  How do I do that; you may ask?

That’s a great question!  The thing to remember here is that there is no magic bullet, no quick or easy answer.  You have developed this pride, this mindset, your default behavior over the many years of your life.  Each decision you have ever made has led you to this exact spot you stand in right now.  The way through this moment in time is to  be better prepared.  How are you with “counter intuitive” instruction?  How are you with heeding warning signs and feelings long before you “re-act”?

Choosing wisely in the moment takes a certain mindset and knowing what you truly believe about things in your life before you encounter them.  This is a huge concept and lost on most.

I would love to hear what you think about what you have just read.

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