When we as women feel overwhelmed at the duties that naturally are laid on our shoulders, how to we each continue to stand tall in the face of overwhelming responsibility, hardship and just the sheer weight of the things on our plates?
Women since the very beginning have been shouldering these burdens of motherhood, being a wives, taking care of our homes and cooking the meals, making sure that things are in order every morning and things are tucked in and in their place when the moon shines through our windows and today is no different than it was thousands of years ago. The same difficulties still exist.
You know deep down inside, I think we each would love to be the woman we were created to be. Not all of us are meant to be wives. Not every woman is able to have children. Some women love working outside their homes and still others of us dread it like a bad flu bug. We all love it when our homes are clean. We all love a great meal on the table. We all love clean sheets and a bouquet of flowers on the table, but life isn’t like this for most of us.
How can the burden be lifted with out our feminine spirit being crushed in the process and how can we still hold our own since of self and our feminine identity?
No two of us will have the same answer to the question posed above and we cannot have the same answer, because we are all so inherently different. And you know, that’s not a bad thing at all. We each have a different threshold of pain, and of pleasure. We each react to our lives, our families, our jobs and our relationships differently. One of us may thrive in a two story walk up in New York City and another might just have a melt down if we couldn’t tack up and ride our horse out in the sunshine and fresh air every day. How glorious is it that we are all so very different?
It is in this difference where the answer lies.
What I know is that when we are at the verge of collapsing, that is the moment when our great strength is ready to pour out of us like a great fountain.
Take a moment to actually just fall to your knees, collapse in a chair, fall on your bed, or even to just lie flat on your back on the floor.
Feel the weight of what you are feeling and overwhelmed with. It is OKAY to FEEL things! Life is not meant to be all birthday cake and a new pair of heels. Life is hard work most of the time.
Often it really helps to just break down and cry it out. This is not a sign of weakness, but rather a healthy release of stress in your body and it actually helps to free up your brain and your emotions so that you can get to a place of finding solutions and getting to the being in a place of power to move forward.
Now, get up from where ever you have collapsed into and wash your face, I mean like when you take off your makeup washing. Or better yet, get into the shower and feel the water just wash away all of that which is holding you down, keep breathing deeply…..there will come a moment when you will no longer be heavy but light. That is the time to start to rebuild your inner strength.
Next time…..your next rebuilding steps!
