You probably have felt: “Powerless” although you have never uttered the word, but you sure felt it.
When we do not have certain things clear in our minds, our hearts and our souls, we become “stuck” and we do truly feel powerless when it comes to some very specific decisions we need or want to make.
What decisions do you make in a split second?
I know that if you are able to make decisions in a certain area of life, then you truly have a “belief” about that specific area.
If you are “stuck”, you feel “powerless”, or you are “completely lost”, then you are not sure about something in that area of life.
When we feel “powerless” we fall back on our “default behavior”.
What is your “default behavior”?
Perhaps, it is eating, drinking, shopping, talking too much, getting advice on the decision from everyone in your contact list, or procrastination.
There are thousands of “default behaviors” that every person on earth resorts to when they do not want to go through the “pain” of the decision.
Think about that for a minute: “…..you do not want to go through the pain of making the decision…..”.
What does that mean for you?
Many of us push down the feelings that are associated with a particular area of our lives where we have to make a decision. Others have had bad outcomes when making a certain decision, so in order not to experience that feeling again, they simply resort to their “default behavior”.
Does this get rid of the feelings? No, because we then feel so guilty or disgusted with ourselves that we tell ourselves all sorts of hateful, untruths about who we are and how we feel.
This is an endless cycle.
Feeling the pain, looking at what is true and what is not true, what was real at age 10 is not real or relevant at 25, 35, or 65. It is time to re-evaluate the whole decision process.
What are you struggling with today?