How’s life been for you lately since Valentine’s day? That’s a loaded question and February 14th seems like a lifetime ago doesn’t it? Well, that’s the way we live our lives, we live them in snippets, in experiences and like the pestering fly that bothers us when we are napping, or the graceful butterfly we observe lifting off from flower to flower it is our perspective which makes these experiences stitch together of fall apart. Case in point today being our “bus – i – ness”. For the last month I have become an “observer” of life and what I have observed is “busy blindedness” no that isn’t a real word, I just made it up. To be defined as one who is living in “busy blindedness” is to live ones life in a manner in which you are so busy, you are blinded to life itself. In other words you miss the very things that you say you cherish the most and the things, people, sounds, and sights that you love by being so engaged, important and busy they can be standing right in front of you and you are blind.
Perhaps right now with tax day approaching you are truly blinded by MONEY, the lack of MONEY. This will destroy you, your ability to focus, your relationships, and pretty much your entire life. Maybe you are a person who is blinded by the fact that you need, truly NEED to HAVE THINGS! You don’t really need them, but your just have to have them in order to FEEL something. Does this describe you in any small way? You will go to any length to get what your desire with no thought as to what it is really costing you.
Maybe you are a person who is blinded by SUCCESS! You will do whatever it takes to get to the top of that golden ladder and it doesn’t matter what sacrifices have to be made in order to get to the top, just as long as you get to the top……then what happens when you look around and there is no one there to celebrate with?
Envy eats away at your very soul, and will destroy you from the inside out. Do not let it gain a foothold in your life. We often let our own perception of ourselves inflate who were are what we are capable of doing and what we have accomplished on our own and pretty soon, we are looking at shadows to see who is stealing our throne, our self imposed titles, our gold cup, our beauty, our youth, our sales team, our #1 status, or whatever we have deemed of highest value.
Perhaps the greatest pitfall in all of this blindedness is in the area of LOVE ~ we all want it, we all desire to be loved, we all want to have someone in our lives to share our lives. There are so many dating sites, it is confusing! We go to great lengths preparing for “the event” and when we finally get to “the event” it is a complete disappointment, because we have fantasized the whole thing into something that it can never live up to.
So what happens to being so busy that we are truly blinded to the life we are living? What can we do to actually see what is right there in front of us? One thing we can do is to stop. Yes, stop living at such a break neck speed. We are on a “speed~high”. So when anything normal happens, we dismiss it, as trivial, dumb, mundane; when it truly is wonderful, miraculous, and something that we ourselves are unable to create. I am always reminded of a wonderful line from a Shirley Temple movie, where she is talking and and the person makes a comment about a duck laying an egg and Shirley looks up at the grown up and asks: “can you lay an egg?” We are just like this. Can you make the sun rise? Can you put the stars in the night sky? Do you make the cherry blossoms burst forth every Spring along the Potomac? Can you set the Mute Swans in flight as they migrate each Spring? Can you paint a red sunset? We ignore these things and they are right before our eyes every day.